Generally speaking, let all that roll off of you. You've had several very positive interactions lately in my opinion...focus on that, don't focus on that little stuff. Often, we notice everything, I don't think our spouses our thinking like we are looking. In other words, don't dwell on it. It's not a big deal.
Here's some simple examples from me lately 1) Picked up 5D Sunday - W asked if I wanted take the dog out. I said sure...so she turns for the leech and pushes the door to. Well, I was awful close and it could've felt like getting it slammed in my face. That wasn't the intent...water off a duck back. 2) Last night talking to W about 5D trip - W says that'll be good you can bring her by "my house" blah blah...the "my" stuck out to me. Let it go...it's nothing...I guess a mini-positive for me is that later she said bring her to "the house" - slight difference... 3) This morning I called and 5D answers - it felt at first that W was just avoiding the call...that could bother me. I just don't let it. Ask 5D to speak with W, and have a short but very friendly conversation.
Like I said, I just don't think they are looking at everything...so don't sweat the smallest of things. Something I learned a long time ago, sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It could be their day or whatever. Almost arrogant to think everything they do is because of our "presence".
just thoughts...2 cents...hope it's not a waste of your thread space...
