Indeed Nutty...in fact, I saw more 'babysteps' and more fear of losing me after filing than at any point. Sadly, tho', as you have mentioned, there was NO EFFORT at trying to heal...NO EFFORT to stop the D....NO EFFORT at communication or discussing any of our issues. She simply 'spooned' me at night to, in her exact words "alleviate the pain on some level."

Well, love isn't supposed to hurt this badly...as mentioned above.

Recall what my L said Nutty...that when women fall in love with OM, they pull the trigger and D their H's. When men fall in love with OW, they keep the W around.

Although many would read that comment by your H as a 'babystep', staying married means 2 and only 2...commitment...trust...etc. Anything short of that, well.........

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;