To Nutty....she was spooning me almost nightly prior to the service of the Verified Complaint. Now, anger and hostility (see below). She still cycles to some degree...between utter anger/rage...to cordial civility. She does things to 'garner acceptance' from the kids rather than nurture them (again, see below). I think filing actually, took the pressure off of ME. I was trapped between DB'ing/trying to save my marriage and deciding whether or not to file for D. You see...all my attempts to DB only enabled her. As time went on.....she continued to be open to the advances of younger men and it became more obvious that I was merely a trapeze net for her.
In the words of Drew here, it's not that I wanted to move on but that I HAD to move on.
To fig....thanks...and thank you for staying on with me. To cire...as always, staying strong.
Yesterday:
My son came home with his report card yesterday. My W didn't tell me about it...I had to 'find it' ( I don't play that game...I text her with all S7's and D4's game times/practices). She also dumped a bill in my pile....leftover hospital bill for $112 that is in HER name that she never paid. It was sent to collections...with her name on it. I put it back in her pile. She hasn't contributed to any household bills and, now, during tax season...she will have to pull some of her weight.
When I got home:
Me: S7....would you like to have a catch? W: (interjecting). I never got to see him yesterday and I'm taking him out. Me: OK (S7 starts to cry). W: OK..you can have a short catch (which never occurs)
W: C'mon D4...let's go D4: But mom...I don't want to go. W: Then stay home (said brusquely)...(W rushes out with S7)
I then discovered S7's report card which was STELLAR. My W 'absconded' with him I guess to celebrate that without telling me and left D4 behind in a crude fashion. I scooped her up and WE had a catch outside. Then, took her to the grocery store to let her pick out her dinner. I grilled up a burger for her and she picked out broccoli and cheese. She called it 'our honeymoon dinner'. Dunno where she got the term from. LOL.
W left about 6'ish and returned about 9:15PM. I congratulated S7. He crashed with me ( LOL..I snuck upstairs quickly so I could get into the MBR since the couch was killing me). We talked in the dark....about how proud I was of him...how important it was to get good grades and work hard.
Somewhere in the middle of the night, my STBXW came into the bedroom and, in a dreamstate, I recall her lifting up my hand from him and throwing my hand aside.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
