Hey SBH. Sorry to hear that you're down. Just give it time (yeah...I know, shut up...patience blah blah blah...).
Try and take comfort in the revelations your W has. Better that they are exposed and dealt with than linger underneath the surface festering. Right? I feel my W has similar issues to those of SBH-SAM, so I know where you're coming from; however, my W is "unaware" of these things, or if she is, she doesn't really acknowledge them.
Also, try and take care of yourself. You'll burn out if you don't take some SBH-time...try to rid your mind temporarily of the difficulties of late. Hike a mountain, go for a bike ride, or take a long walk.
