Oh I feel for you. So many times, I have been there. Its dark, lonely and downright miserable. The one benefit of you two living in separate houses is peace from that.
It is miserable, lbw. Living in separate houses would alleviate it, but it is discouraged by my C right now.
My tactic right now, I suppose, is to up my GALing, 180ing or even going dark, if my talk with the OM does not yield results.
Dan, one more thing:
What does "doing a 180" mean to you? I thought it meant "doing the opposite from the course you've been trying." From reading your sitch (and that's all ANY of us have to go on, so perhaps this is unfair), your past attempts have included "giving her a lot of space" and not confronting her nor enforcing any boundaries.
I may be pro-exposure, but I'm a big believer in the DB principles of "GAL" and "180" and other things. To this observer, the best "180" you could do would be to put your foot down and fight for your family, and take a STRONG stand with your wife and fight for her.
In fact, I think she's WAITING for you to do just that.
