I sent W the e-mail about not being at D's birthday party and she wrote back immediately asking why I wasn't going to be there. I replied that it was their weekend and they were the princesses so they should celebrate it together and D and I would have our special time the following weekend. W then sent more questions as to why I wouldn't be coming.
I didn't reply to her, but I called to try and get to my DB coach before she left the office. She was busy, but they told me to send an e-mail and they'd try to get it to her so she could respond to me right away. So I pulled off at the library and was assigned a computer with the hopes of typing a quick e-mail to my DB coach before my counseling appointment. As luck would have it, the computer wouldn't connect to the internet after 10 minutes and I had to make my appointment, so I left.
After meeting w/ the C, I raced home and fired off the e-mail, but it was too late as I've still not heard anything. So, when I called for D at 7:30, W kept badgering me to answer why I wasn't coming to the party. Finally after her asking four times, I said "I'm not comfortable w/ OM being at the party."
W replied that he wasn't coming and I told her all of her responses yesterday clearly said he'd be there. W then said "well, you never specifically said you didn't want OM to come." I told her three times I would appreciate it if OM wasn't at the party. What more was I supposed to say?
I thanked her sincerely for letting me know he wouldn't be there and said I did wish she would have stated this yesterday. W then laid into me and said OM wasn't the reason for the D (I just said, "ok" which I think ticked her off). W then added that she had asked for a D in August (not true) which was long before she had met OM (again, not true).
W told me I needed to figure out what the "f*ck" I was doing about the party and added "regardless of whether OM was coming, and he's not coming, your concern should be what is best for your daughter and not what is best for you." I replied, "but if I was to act inappropriately because OM is there, then my not being at the party would be in the best interest of my D." With that W handed the phone to D and D and I chatted playfully for about 15 minutes.
I went to the gym after that to work w/ the trainer, but my heart wasn't in it. I was so bouyed today after my discussion w/ my coach this morning and I really felt I was doing the right thing. The problem is W sees it as selfish on my part and I'm just hoping I didn't blow things by mentioning OM. I didn't know what else to do so I told the truth.
I'm hoping to catch my DB coach tomorrow for a talk and I'll let you know what she says and give you her take on today's situation. I hope I handled myself ok today and didn't do too much damage.
