How did you let that roll off your back? I find if my W. says something like that, it feels so final, so heavy. I can't seem to look at it other than some really devastating thing to hear. How have you managed this differently / any advice?
I don't know, Purr...I guess I just think really hard on the "believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see" doctrine. I have read through all of the success stories, and that seems to be a common theme...they say stuff like that to convince themselves that they are on the right path. Meanwhile, I listen for the clues that she is not done with me/us yet - and there are plenty, it's not just wishful thinking. I think that she has a slight glimmer of doubt, because, she is still in this, hanging by a thread.
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It has everything to do with her seeing me not as an "equal" anymore, as someone who doesn't challenge her, and that is who she wants to be with, and who I used to be.
That is exactly what my wife said, among other things. I told her I have a hard time challenging her on anything, when she lives 20 miles away, but move back home and you'll get all the challenge you can handle, baby.
I am settling in for the next hour with a nice 18 year old. Mmmmmm!
Single malt scotch, you guys, come on!!!
I just bought a book a friend recommended: "Getting Back Together: How To Reconcile With Your Partner And Make It Last" by Bettie Youngs, Ph.D.
I'll let you know if I learn anything....peace out.
