Neecy,

It is nice that he worries about you. Many of these WASs don't. That is a plus on his side. But it is best for you for the craziness to be out of your house. You should start attending Al-anon meetings. The people there will understand what you have been going through, and they will give you strength. You are experiencing more than simply a husband with an affair who moved out, you are dealing with a person who has lost control of his life due to alcohol. You have to stop playing his game and covering for him. Al-anon will help you.