kiss, first off anybody that is in the middle of a MLC acts like an idiot, and very much like a teenager. You remember how you acted, the world revolves around me and everybody else's thoughts or feelings don't matter.
fooled, first off, great post. Secondly, watching a spouse begin the process of an MLC SUCKS! No other way to put it. Understanding what causes an MLC helps very little, because when you do understand it you realize that your marriage is probably over. It's kind of like getting a diagnosis of uncurable cancer. You know the end is near.
My ex hasn't spoken one word to me since last August. Yet she has been in the house on several occasions. I am sure of this. When she left she only took clothes, and not even all of them. It is like she has been gone on a really long business trip. Her presence is still very much in the house, which sucks even worse. It is like she is hedging her bets. Rational thinking on her behalf, no. But I don't think anybody has ever accused and MLC person of rational thinking.
Today we accepted an offer to sell the house after it has been on the market for almost ten months (YEA!). The real estate agent had one hell of a time contacting her. It took the agent calling her mother (yep, 41 and living with the parents) to get her to contact her.
The drama is almost over. And there isn't a thing she can do about.
But anyway, just my thoughts and experiences.
Me: 47 Pet: Kind labrador, 12 years old. Best Friend anybody could have.
Divorce final 12/07/07 No Kids
It is no longer about the divorce or about her. It's all about how I live my life now.
