Well, there's the irony.... and also a good reason for patience, and to not take their threats of witholding kids too seriously....
In the long run, they will want their freedom too. Few D women want to be a 100% full-time moms. Divorced women (particularly the selfish ones!) will want their time to date, time with OM and no kids, etc......
More than likely as things calm down, you'll have plenty of time with child.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
