I guess I look at things a little differently. When I first went through this I wondered how on earth I would ever trust anyone again. Now I am at a place where I trust people until they give me a reason not to. It took a while, but I don't want to live with the idea that just because ex did what he did, that I have to go through life looking at everyone with a suspicious eye.
If something doesn't feel right them address it. I do agree with SD people can't read our minds so you have to ask for what you want. I'm not sure where you are in the relationship. Do you feel that you're at a place where you have a right to ask?
