Well, this marked the 1st wkend that my H spent almost the entire time with us, even offering to stay over on Saturday night if I had plans to go out.
It was full of "we's" & behavior that I haven't seen a hint of for a year. Looking back, it's come a long way from "ILYBNILWY, I'm leaving & it's permanent, I have an offer for you," to telling people @ the neighbors party, "We need to fill up our jacuzzi & use it, we've been living there 3 years now, afterall." "This is my wife J." "What do you think of this idea for next year."
He's coming over tonight to take S's to dinner, I've already informed him I have other plans already. This change started when he said something about my boyfriend not liking something, & I replied that he's pretty easy going. I think he was in total shock that I didn't say "I don't have a BF." Since this seems to be working on waking him up, I'm going to continue on w/seeing my too good to be true BF until he really experiences what life w/out me is like.
They say, if you do something that works, keep doing it.
As CVA said, "I guess you went the Homer route, & it seems to be having an effect."
They also say, most of what they threaten to do in the beginning never comes to pass, so don't panic too much ahead of time.
So, my goal is to just keep steady & let events flow naturally.
We'll see where they go from here.
Keeping my expectations in check, treating him like a nice neighbor.
Sunny
Hey Puddle, Nice hearing from you! Yes, it does help with the PMA, definitely, although I have moved away from having it depend on him. The last I heard, everything was pretty calm in your world. Still the case?
