[karen43]

I think I'm pretty much done. Things are just too difficult and I'm no good at DBing. We don't have children, so what's the big deal. Vows Shmows.

I just don't think it's worth it anymore. I can't continue to try with no reciprocation.

Well, I think many of us are not that great at DBing. Today I was trying to go dim and failed miserably. But I listened to some of my favorite (cheery) music and did some cleaning, and do feel like tomorrow is another day. I find that DBing has been good for me: instead of focusing on H or how he is acting, I focus on myself, trying to improve myself and have fun, too. I think if you focus too much on your H you will def. get frustrated, b/c I think many of our Hs are going through depression, MLC, temporarily obsessed with an OW, etc. I don't think many of our H's and W's here even know what is going on in their own head, confused, etc., at least my H is in MLC and like that and I've read of many others here as well.

My H has warmed up slightly from last year, and is more of a friend now than a yelling person like last year. I think if our marriage ends I will have a healthier R with whoever, but I'm in no rush to do that for now.

I do think that whatever you really want to do and decide to do we here will support you! I would take time though and make sure you are making a decision that you can be happy about! Karen