For what it's worth, on the trust thing...no one can prove without a shadow of a doubt that they're trustworthy. It's just not possible. Why? Because it requires us to believe them. And...well, after your experience, it's going to taint things for a time.
My H didn't cheat, but he was writing love letters to another woman that I found. Two years later, and I'm just now starting to trust him and let down my guard...and it probably has more to do with ME learning to trust that I can handle whatever might happen, valuing myself, and setting really clear boundaries. I trust myself enough to say what I need to.
So, be gentle with yourself for now. You were in a trauma, and it takes time to heal. It comes down to DBing again...GAL, PMA, detaching, etc. Just good life skills.
So glad you are enjoying this man's company and your life. Take care of yourself!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
