Originally Posted By: kat727
Karen, I think going dim would have meant not asking about his tooth. Think of yourself as a cop...just the facts ma'am. Don't give any extra info and the same goes for asking. Don't be mean, just too the point. kat


You're totally right, Kat! I will work on that; but you know having read my posts that is so hard for me to do!!!

I think you are right about the money talks, if they aren't solving anything write it in a short email or maybe not at all?

I am reading a good book now! Michele Weiner Davis' 3rd book, Change your life and everyone in it, and think it is good. It is similar to DB & DR, which I've also read, and talks about some of the same concepts: like as if, 180s, LRT, etc. but instead of just focusing on marriage/separation it is about"creating changes in every aspect of your life". I had read the other 2, so think this book is a good reinforcement/reminder and good for me now, b/c I'm less focused on making changes for H as I was when I first started, and more focused on improving my whole life and myself for me. It is similar to DB & DR, but with a different focus so I don't feel like I'm reading the same book over and over again or anything. I hope she will come out with more books like this: covering all aspects of your life rather than just marriage, although I like those too!!! \:\) Karen

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