CL, Answers to your questions: 1 - Sexual R with my H is very healthy now
2 - Friendship also healthy. We always could make each other laugh. We enjoy spending time together, even if it's just chilling in front of the tube.
3 - Am I happy? Mostly, yes. I say mostly because this entire legal sitch is going to take awhile to be over and we don't know how it's going to end. That adds a degree of stress and worry.
4 - Do I have activities and connections in my life that promote happiness? Yes, I believe I do. Am very close to my family; have a fantastic D14; leader of a GS troop; do well at my job; regular exercise (but need to do more).
5 - What problems remain: the legal sitch; I'd like to find more to do with my H (i.e. more dates); affair proofing our M (yes, Sara, I've seriously considered Retrovaille) and something I didn't mention before, my H's drinking problem (realize that I should also list that under #6 for me).
6 - Chronic stressors? Well, the legal sitch for one! Not too much debt. Overall, we're a pretty stable family.
7 - As far as repercussions from the accident causing distance and negative feelings in the M ... perhaps somewhat, but I wouldn't call them red flags. For months I just couldn't believe the mess he got himself (and us) into. But since it's been so long, I've come to the realization that what happened, happened. Can't change it, just have to deal with it and get on with life. I'm a very forgiving person, too.
8 - How is H doing? Overall, he seems to have handled everything very well. He's facing some serious stuff, but yet has not let it get him down. That said, he has his down days, but overall, he is a happier person. I think it's mostly because we have connected with each other again. We were both unhappy for a long time.
