Raining men, CG back in your life, Aston Martins (I think one of the sexiest cars around), cute little Argo (loved the pictures), hoola hoops and massages!
As we were talking he commented that it is so important to wait until the time is right to start dating. And then he said to me, "Aren't you in such a better place now? I mean everything. You aren't in a bad marriage, you have gone through so much growth, life is just so much better now, isn't it?"
From SG today:
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And I had to agree.
From C2H today:
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Around here, we all do the best we can to "save" a marriage and many go WAY above and beyond what is required. When we finally heal, we find that sooooooo many have found someone else and that someone else is the one who gets lucky (to find us).
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Boy, isn't that the truth. We become better people thinking that our spouses will sit up and take notice, only to realize that we weren't that bad to begin with. The changes we make on our journey are for us and end up making us better, but they really are or should be for us. If we're smart about what we've learned, and take our time, someone will be lucky to get the person that we've become!
Hmmm, seems to be a common theme here.... Have GREAT date, end it early and leave him wanting more SG...
HOOPING! That hooping is so awesome, you go girl! By the way, the gal in the video is amazing and sooooo coordinated. How in the heck did she keep those hoops going and manage to NOT step in those cow pies?
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
Well I had a wonderful time (again) w/CG on Friday. He seems very different from any guy I have ever gone out with before, including H. And as my sister says, "that is a good thing!" Not much to report except that we had dinner and drinks and it was lovely.
Saturday I had to work. Then in the evening I went with a girlfriend to the Art Openings that are every Second Saturday. Went to the gallery show that included a photo of DD...I was glad it was one of my favorites from the shoot, blown up 11x7 or so, framed, so I bought it! A bunch of S's friends were there so we had some friendly talk about S. The photographer told me that she would love to take pictures of S as well, but he isn't cooperative. Girlfriend and I had drinks and dinner as well and got caught up. We worked together at the same school when I was in the thick of things with the D. She was also going through a horrible D. We held each other's hand every step of the way. And now we are both in a completely different, better phase of life.
This afternoon is the hooping class! I am excited. Today I have to get caught up on laundry and chores. Whenever I have to work on a Saturday I get behind.
Puppy is anxiously waiting for me to take him for a LOOOONNNNGGGGG walk. That is next on the agenda!
Hope everyone has a great day!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Hey SG: I never knew that people still did hula hooping - I loved doing it when I was a kid. It looks fabulous!
Did you know that there are Hoop Batons? Ashley did a routine with a Hoop Baton in Disney World when she was about 11. The baton fits right in the middle of the Hula Hoop and is attached with screws. Most of the routine is done twirling the baton (which is complicated by the hoop - but very intricate). The hoop is usually decorated with garland or fringe which makes it even prettier to watch. Like the routine I just watched on the video - sometimes you roll the hoop around your neck or wrist = she even through it away but it rolled back to her.
Sounds like you've found someone who is quite enjoyable to be with. Have fun with him and keep us posted.
My class was a little bit of a disappointment...I thought it was going to be held in a dance room, which would be air conditioned and have a water cooler. I rode my bike to class, and there was a sign on the door that they had moved to the quad...outdoors, in the sun! Believe it or not, Sunday in Northern California was in the mid-80s! So I got to the place and there was a group of people, in a circle, each with a hula-hoop. I looked for the teacher person and found someone who sort of looked like she was in charge, and she turned out the be the teaching assistant. No teacher on the first day of class! Also, I never got the memo that we were supposed to bring our own hoops. Luckily there was an extra, and so I stood there and did my stuff. I really wanted to learn something new, so eventually the "assistant" did show me a way to get the hoop from my hand above my head to my hips, while keeping it spinning. Yay! A new move! Like I said, the heat was too much for me, and hooping is actually quite aerobic. The class was supposed to go 1.5 hours, but I left after 45 minutes. Hopefully next week they will be more organized.
Dating Again...
Well friends, as our friend AG would say, I am filled with Angst today. In spite of all the fun I have been having, this dating stuff is not for wimps. I actually made an appointment to talk to a counselor because all kinds of uncomfortable feelings are coming to the surface now. (Because of insurance changes this will be a new counselor)
Why is it that I could be getting to know a new female friend, and if we do something on Thursday and I don't see her again over the weekend and I don't know when I will see her again that would be just A-OK with me?
I am feeling very miffed (again) because CG couldn't' go with me on Saturday (although he sent me a lovely e-mail and I had a great time with my girlfriend instead) and he also can't go to something on Wednesday we had talked about. I am not pursuing. I am sitting tight. But this is hard. I should NOT be feeling this insecurity. I have been even thinking about calling him and telling him I don't want to see him anymore. Isn't that crazy?
So I think that the D does play up our fears and our insecurities. I am hoping that whoever the insurance will pay for this time is a good counselor. I haven't felt this insecure and flummoxed in a very long time.
After all, the last time I "dated" was almost 30 years ago!
Sheesh!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
I just came home from a fun evening...and I was...all by myself!
This may be a first.
Right now as I write this I am trying to remember going out like this in the past. This is the first time in a very long time that I have gone out as a single woman.
Tonight I started my evening with my 2 girlfriends. We often get together for a Corona "Lite" and lime after work. I took Argo over there and it was nice, because he is very comfortable there with the whole family, and he will stay in the yard. the kids like him and it is really nice to have a place where we can both relax, and it isn't our house.
En-Ee-Ways....
I have been having fun going to Poetry Readings a few times in the past few months. It is really a great entertainment value, as they say. Tonights show was a hilarious, ribald event...the main speaker was a popular lecturer at University. The room was packed with students with a sprinkling of colleagues and general public scattered about. I got an e-mail from a girlfriend today. She is the one who went to the artshows with me. I told her about my stupid feelings of anxiety...the "waiting by the phone" feeling. She said that the key is to stay "Authentically Busy"
Wow. There is that word, "Authentic" which is really the key to everything...
This is just part of the whole "GAL" thing. As we always say, DBing is ultimately for yourself.
Tonight I had to force myself to go to the Poetry Reading...but once I was there, I was so glad I had! I learned how to say some naughty things in Latin! Domino Vobiscum!
heh heh...
I had my evaluation phone call from the insurance yesterday. I have new insurance so I had to get screened to see if I qualify for therapy...The questions are interesting and definitely depict a spectrum. So while I do not feel I am a danger to myself or others, I do feel like it would be good to talk to an impartial listener as I navigate the dating scene and other issues. But that wasn't what made the evaluator take notice. It was my "financial distress". The way the interview was handled made it so obvious what is covered by the plan. Hmf...
Also had a good business contact today. Need to follow up on that...
*sigh*
Why cant we just wave a magic wand and all of our problems would be solved?
In-Ee-Ways...
Feeling tired.
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
SG, you sound great. Your posts are the best. Just wait until your phone screens are about long term health insurance and they try to tell if you have a grip on today plus one. Authentic is the key, no kidding. Wonder
Why cant we just wave a magic wand and all of our problems would be solved?
Welllll, not sure such a thing exists but I've seen this thing where you cross your arms over top of each other in front of your chest and nod........you can make anything happen that you want!!! It worked for I Dream of Jeanie, why not us???
