Who cares why your H wants you to GAL? You GAL for yourself and if they see you in a different light, then BONUS! The thing is, they WILL see you in a different light. My H has specifically stated that me seeming to be at peace and happier has definitely positively affected our relationship a lot. So, cool, but I feel better and that's what I really like about it.
H is acting like an idiot. H is the one who's broken, not us, not me. I'm getting stronger by the day, I'm feeling better by the day. I still want us to work, but I can only change myself. That in turn changes our R.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09