GL Steve, it's just tough and you will question everything you do if it goes wrong. we will all make mistakes and slip up, but get back on the horse and try again.
I had a terrible evening and most of today but after getting home from work and playing with the boys for 2-3 hours, I feel so much better. It gave the wife a break and I feel closer to my oldest than I ever have as he's such a mummies boy in general.
I'm interested in this marriage care also, is there a website ? (i'll google anway)