I do the attendance at a High School and I will tell you that if a student is not here I call the home, work, and cells to find out where they are....I don't leave a day without knowing where my kids are....granted I work in a Catholic school of 910 kids but its an all day job to watch them so they don't come in late or slip out early.....the majority of the kids know I will find them so I really don't have the trouble...they know I do it for them...and I get hugs in return....
Last edited by Treese; 04/14/0806:58 PM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Tresee it's good to know that some schools are taking appropriate care of their pupils. S15 has not gone to school today either. I got a call from the truancy officer who I have arranged to come to my house tomorrow and also a standard TM from the school. That in itself is an improvement but I shouldn't have to make such a fuss to ensure my child is safe.
TL thanks for the birthday wishes. I took the children out for a meal in the evening. It was supposed to be just a nice simple meal but it ended up costing me a small fortune.
I think H may have made an attempt at trying to get my attention last night! He rang about 9pm. I had a friend visiting who had brought a birthday present for me so I didn't answer the phone. Several minutes prior to this the phone had rang just once numerous times. Anyway D17 answered and H wanted to speak to D12. Her birthday is at the end of May and he wanted to know if she wanted to go to theatre to celebrate. She did and said thank you. He could've chosen any day to ring about this. Usually when he rings late in the evening it is me that answers. I might be reading too much into this but either way if he was seeking my attention he didn't get it.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Well it looks like I was right about the attempted contact. It was clearly not meant to be a good interaction either so I'm really glad I didn't answer the phone. Ny birthday was c**py enough as it was.
I just got home and their is a letter from my L. She has forwarded a letter from Hs L stating that if they have not heard from us by the end of the week they are going to serve notice direct to me for D on grounds of MY unreasonable behaviour. H had obviously hoped I would receive it yesterday. B**s**rd So now I will have to ring her tomorrow. I'm really torn, I don't know whether to just give in and let him have the D or fight it like I said I would originally. Guess that's another sleepless night tonight.
He hasn't responded to the email i sent him about D15 so I assume he is not coming. Good to know he cares about his children I expect he will be expecting me to berate him. Think again buster.
I also suspect he is hoping that I won't go to D17s birthday party at the weekend. If he wants to saty away that's fine but there is no way I am going to miss my daughter's 18th birthday party.
Last edited by ACJ; 04/15/0805:46 PM.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Nor should you miss any of your children's birthday parties.
As a father, even if things had gone sour between me and my wife, she could have had all their birthday parties, I'd celebrate either earlier or later, she is the one that gave birth, and carried them for 8 months. : ) Both were premies.
Don't miss her birthday.
Good luck ACJ
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"I don't know whether to just give in and let him have the D or fight it like I said I would originally."
What exactly are you fighting for Alison? No you don't have to answer just be sure for yourself. We both know sooner or later your h will get what he wants, a D. Please remember whatever happens down the road will be determined by what happens now. How you relate to each other as parents. Also fighting is not the same as standing.To give in also does not mean giving up. You just abide by the law do what is asked of you and no more. I am not saying give up just to think that this acrimony could go on for years and for what. I would speak to you solicitor and let her do the letter writing with what ever you decide. I am sorry this happened so close to your birthday. Never a good time I guess.
