thanks for the response. Had to pick up daughter, age 5 AGAIN from school because she was crying all morning for her daddy. h and I are going to therapy on thursday and I called the therapist today to let her know that at least for the first few sessions, the focus has to be on dealing with our daughter. She is obviously going through a VERY hard time with all this. It is literally breaking my heart.
also, I just need to know, I know I have asked many times, but how in the world can a marriage be saved if your h is telling you this is the happiest he's ever been, he's so connected, blah, blah -- I feel SO hopeless right now.