You have to stop trying to figure "them" out. There is no rhyme or reason that will ever satisfy your need to know. Why would you get a "secret cell phone", to hide secrets....
You have to start focusing your thoughts and energy on yourself. I know I have so many questions that I want answered but the bottom line I have come to is this:
If I ask a question two things can happen:
1) The answer will be a lie, because once they start lying you never know when they decide to tell the truth.
2) They will tell you the truth and it will hurt like hell.
So, the way I figure it, I don't ask because I won't like the answer. Wondering is better than knowing or then you never really know if it's the truth so you start right back where you started from....with questions - rinse and repeat.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too