I think I will tell him those things this afternoon.
K,
In your story, the problem is I KNOW he can't swim, so I want to save him. But I can't swim in and save him. As Woog says, he is flailing around too much and bigger than me, so I hurt myself when I try to save him and we both wind up tired and bruised...We have been repeating this scenario for months, with a few minor variations. He didn't want to be saved, didn't think he needed saving. Now he thinks he is BEYOND saving, I fear...
I would love option B in your list, wait for him to get what he needs. I don't want to quit. But what to do with the children while I wait, and for how long????
