My boss comes from Jordan, ever since this mess started with my H he has given me valuable advice. He once told me a "story". He said, let's pretend you see a friend you love, in the sea, who (you know) can't swim, screaming for help, fighting for his life, what do you do?
You sit outside on the beach and yell at him, "you stupid a$$, why did you go in since you can't swim? I hope you enjoy this!! Who is going to come rescue you? You better learn how to swim fast the way I do or you are dying...!!"
or
You go in, carefully, save him, bring out on the shore and once his regains his conscious again, you slap him big time, to get the last bit of water out of him (and "punish" him for scaring the hell out of you)? I don't know why, this is what popped in my mind after reading your posts.
Reading what your H was like this weekend, it sounds to me you are asking for something he doesn't have at the moment. Either you keep asking knowing you are not going to get it, stop and wait until he has it or quit because you can't wait. Think about it.
Keep still this week I agree, I'll post some later, K
