Enjoying my life!!!

[fooled again]

kissak,

he is centre of attention on the stage, you are his audience.

I can see how this could easily be one of the ways that some MLCers self medicate. By perpetuating this drama, having you both wanting him, not deciding and keeping you both on a string, he is "treating" his own depression and lack of self worth. I remember my H doing the same thing, he would text/call and be with both OW and me, telling us both how much he wanted each of us. It was all about his own ego, making himself feel better about himself, and had nothing to do w/ trying to make a choice b/w us.

I think if we remove the choice from them, they are forced to look at what they are left with and only then figure out what they really want. Like children, if they can have it all, they will take it all.

You are doing the right thing, and are at exactly the same stage I am at. Contact only w/ regards to children & finance, friendly but detached, and leaving him to figure out what he must figure out. You don't stop loving him, you just have to pull yourself out of it so that the process doesn't tear you to shreds.

So, quite honestly I felt a big weight lifted off of me. I cant explain it really. I really did feel better.

I too know that feeling, and it has made an enormous difference in my life in the past few weeks. I'm so happy you have made it to that place emotionally. We can do this

FA