just read your question about your son contacting OM.
My personal feeling is if he wants to do it then let him. He's 16. If this OM does something that affects your son then doesn't he have a right to say something?
Personally it is not an idea I would plant in their heads, but if they put the idea forward and they are old enough, then I would let them.
My D was younger, just 13, and she had met OW when out on a trip with her dad before we knew about the A. She knew OW's mobile telephone number because it was a company phone number and only two digits different from her dad's, and she had been given it on the occasion they went out with OW in case they got separated and needed to find one another, (and yes I was that thick and that trusting I didn't know something was going on - duh!!!).
It didn't seem to have a detrimental effect on my D but it did upset the OW and shocked my H.
I know of one other person on these boards who said their son contacted the OP in their sitch and it worked for the best.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
