MLC is CRAZY!!! What a Roller Coaster!!!

[2ndnoah]

Treese, I am Soooo Sorry Treese for the week you had. I thought my days are bad, but yours beats mine. I cannot imagine being in your shoes or your childrens for that matter and finding out another child exists. My heart goes out to you and your children. Teenage years are the most critical time for children, period let alone their family falling a part and divorce. The to add a long time affair and child. I will pray for you and your family. My goodness! It sounds like you are right on track in all this, though. Stay strong, be bold, and stand up for yourself. Something you said.....you had not filed yet..... I was the same way. My thoughts were...he wants a divorce, let him grow some balls and go get one. He kept pressuring me and pressuring me and finally I told him, "you want a divorce then you go get you an attorney, file and have me served". My hubby did just that. My advise to you, don't say it, because they will show you they can and will do it. I regret that now. If I would have known he was going to actually file and get a divorce from me, I would have ran to the attorney's office and filed first. Maybe it would have shocked him? But at least I would have had more control over it than I do now (ie. drag my feet, stop it if I wanted to, and it would be here where I live instead of in another town where he lives). I had to get a different attorney because my attorney would not cross districts. Also, I have missed so much work because I have to take off everytime I need to meet with my attorney, go to a divorce class, or to court. The other town is also a large city verses the town I live in is very small. So think about your advantages before you rule out filing first or not.

My H has yet to confess there is another woman. She's there alright, not my imagination. I think if someone would just take a picture of them together, it would slap me in the face and I would give up and move on. I don't know. I really don't know anything now-a-days! Like stinks. There are some days that I just think I cannot take it anymore. He does not call me period. He will call my boys cells and leave a voice message. They will not talk to him at all. I did see him this weekend for him to sign the income tax returns. He and I said 5 words to each another for a total of 3 minutes. That was sad. I had so many things I wanted to say to him like....come home, what are you doing, there is still time to change your mind, you are ruining us financially, I forgive you if you have done anything, etc... This is the routine I have always done, even in emails. This time I decided to try something different. Be professional. Treat this meeting as a parent-teacher conference. I don't think it worked either. I cried all the way home, a 30 minute drive. I will keep you in my prayers. Hang in there!