You are right, he needs help. That is part of why I see it as "make or break". Because if he can't reach out for help from a counselor or pastor or mentor or wherever he can find it, then it won't ever work for us. It will be more than a separation. I can't be with him when he is so messed up. That is what sucks. I don't want to make the decision, but I don't see the other options. If we had no kids I could see just living my life, getting my own place, moving forward and letting him figure his stuff out. Maybe we could work it out, maybe not....
But I have two little kids watching what is going on. There is no good way to explain this to them. They need more consistency, not, "Daddy and I will just see what happens.........". I don't expect him to be able to get his act together in one week. I don't expect him to become the stable, composed, in-control man I used to know. I guess I was just hoping I would see him acknowledge he needs help, and tell me that once he is back in one piece he wants to do all he can to be a "real" family again. I just don't see how that can happen, which is why this whole thing sucks.
