Shock of all shocks, S got ANOTHER ear infection. Antibiotics ran out Wed, he was full-on infected by Sunday. He cried all day, his ear hurt, temp of 104, the usual
On the way to the Urgent Care at 9:00 pm last night, S made a few choice comments:
1)When we get an apartment in Iowa, maybe Daddy could get an apartment next door to us so we could see him every day. It would be nice to live by him and see him all the time.
2)But once we build our new house (H has always planned to build a house on the family farm), we could live with Daddy and be a family again.
My only comments were, "I know you will be so excited when you can spend time with your Daddy every day." And, "Yes, it would be nice if we could all live in a nice new house, wouldn't it?" Don't know if that was right or wrong....
I texted S's comments to H, who had just left the house when we did and was driving to Iowa. My only words on the text (I mainly quoted S) were, "Looks like he is smarter than we think. Apparently he thinks we will work it out though."
My H's reply? "Whoah". Don't know for sure what that is, other than shock.
I am not certain how to proceed this week. I am thinking I should let him see how it is going to be. When he calls, I will pass the phone to the kids, let him talk to them, period. Take myself out of the equation. I think it is the only way to know if he makes a decision to work on things, that it was his decision and not influenced any further by my actions/words.
Actually, I mentioned during our convo. yesterday that it should be easier for him that I have made the decision, b/c he won't have to keep having these conversations. He can just talk to the kids and not have to "deal" with me. He got all upset and said that isn't what he wanted...
So any way correct me if I need it, 2x4 me if I need it, I will welcome whatever you've got. But I plan to just remove myself from events this week and let him ponder whatever he wants to ponder.
