Hope4us' Struggle, part 2

[Hope4us]

You're exactly right Pup. I agree, that right now her only remorse is that she got caught and maybe because she hurt me. But as crazy as it sounds because I know Cheaters have left their spouses, kids, everything for an OP, but WW and DS16 are very close and for him to lay into her like he did HAD an affect. Now she might not believe he'd never talk to her again, but I guarantee that she would not be able to handle the disapproval of her kids if she would get caught again. And this Thurs she has to go pick DS19 up from school and I can imagine it will be a fun conversation on the 2.5 hour drive home.

And I know how you could think that she's a prime candidate for another affair. And I agree. And I KNOW we will have to address the root causes of the affair. But that can't happen until she's at a point where she's ready. And she's not there only one week post exposure to the kids. Thing is, where I'm at right now, I only hope for us to have a chance, for the kids. Because, for me, I could give a rats a**. But if I'm going to give this a chance for the kids, she's going to have to see me in a somewhat good light before she'll be ready to commit. Not a WEAK light, but a good light.

Don't worry about me. I came home from my mom's yesterday, HATING her. It would only take one slip up and I'm on to the other side.