My W's response was it's only a dream. She didn't care that my real life sitch is ruining my dreams. To her its only a dream.
I talked more to her today. I called her a "Looser" this was a big negative 180 for me. I called her one b/c she associated all men to being loosers. She's certain about not getting re-married if we got a D. I told her I would have to wait a year.
Everything I've asked her to work on our M she's put down. She doen't want to start over with another MC. Every idea I've suggested is stupid. I'm willing to do what it takes to work on our M. The longer we thread water the quicker we're going to sink.
I told my W I L her. Her friends come before her H. She needs to stop going out so often and put me first. I asked her what does she want. Her answer she doesn't know. Five years of not knowing is taking it's toll on me. I asked her what can I do to bring her closer. She said she doesn't know. Just leave me alone. Then I said I could leave her alone, but she would have to come to me. I don't think its going to work.
