Is there some kind of "rule" that the EX should be able to be there if they want to?
Or do you just leave it up to the kid's wishes?
No, there isn't any rule, I'd think the kids would be happy to see the WAS come to their party, in my case, it will be ackward since all kids will be from my family, and because of the D no one will be happy to see H and he wouldnt' want to be around them anyways, my guess is that he'll show up for a bit to take picts and leave (in the future).
How about you? do you have a big family, will most of the guests be from his family or yours? I think that makes a difference, and also where you hold the party, at a kids' place or your home.
Regardless the stupid way the WAS have behaved, if the kids want them there they should be free to come at least for a bit, I would never want any of my kids to resent me that I didnt' let their dad come to their bday parties
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Today I will be turning in my response to the D petition.
It is fairly lengthy but in it I stated how back in May'07, my STBX pressured me into signing this agreement to which @ the time I did not know what my rights were and I did not have an attorney. I also included regarding my concern for the kids safety since I will not be around to "protect" them when they are w/ him and how I would like him to have counseling an if not I request full custody w/ supervised visitation rights. I mentioned when H was in the military pysch ward for a weekend where he got the medical diagnosis of "Immature Personality Disorder". I mentioned how DCF has records of his aggravated assault on me when I was pregnant and how he was ordered to go to anger management. They also have pictures of an awful bruise that he gave my D which lasted for weeks on her leg. H has not been complying w/ the drop off times on Sundays where he brings them back two hours later and sometimes they are not bathed! I let them know it was not only MO but that H has issues going back to his childhood and I had documents to prove it.
SO wish me luck and keep me in your prayers!!!
I hope everyone in surviving is surviving this morning. I feel good all around though!!
GOD IS GOOD!!! My house had a second showing this weekend!! I had to be out of the house all weekeend cuz three families were looking at it!
Trip I am a little slow...esp. this morning. Did you mean for me to read the post that you replied to , the one just above mine?
I still havent had time to bring the D response downtown, my freind said she can do it for me possibly today. I just know STBX will flip his top when his L reads it to him!!!
I was looking into another legal matter when I cam across some information. Try going to a university with a law department. They may be willing to look over your case pro bono.
Nothing much going on other than I still have not heard from H's L to set our first court date! I left his L a message to call me last week before I went in for surgery(nasal) adn still haevnt heard a thing.
All the while STBX is being REALLY nicey nice....hmmmm?? One day he even tried to kiss me on the mouth!I turned my head away. So later as he was leaving he gave me a kiss in the forehead. He even let me have some of his lawn electrical tools..hmmm....?? He even had D10 call me the morning of my surgery to wish me good luck & later asked her how I was feeling.
This is not at all the behaviour I was expecting after I turrned in my response. He would normally be very vindictive... u think his L advised him to be extra sweet? OR unless he thinks he will still get what he wants...
hmmm, for a while stbx (phew, there, I wrote it) would be very nice and helpful. He is still denying being with ow since the SA isn't all done yet. So maybe, he prob wants to keep you happy.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
