NoCode, hope you are feeling better today! I do think re: the spiritual that your W and my H have gotten on the wrong path away from God. We had a sermon about that in church and having affairs the Pastor specifically mentioned is one thing that will do that. So I do pray every day that my H will return to the right path and maybe you already do that for your W or could do that? It makes me feel better to do that anyway. My daughter says my H is wearing a cross that he started wearing this week with the Serenity Prayer and I am hoping that is a sign that my prayers are working!
I think I actually would still marry my husband, he was always a great dad (except for a few months when he was obsessed with the OW), I still love him, etc. But I would plan on having a different marriage: not letting him yell at me and standing up for myself and being more independent, things I have been working on. (H would have to work on himself too!!!)
