I know I sound wobbly right now, but honestly I'm not. In our talk Friday night I told her I would give her some time, but we'd have to talk about HOW she let this happen, because I WILL NOT go through this again. I said to her she needed to look at herself and understand how she let her boundaries expand that let this affair happen, and that was when I saw some real emotion from her. Tears and everything. If she was faking THAT she should get an Oscar. And, I did get an apology of some sorts from her. She said in her nasty gram last Friday that she was "apologetic and a little broken". I know words mean NOTHING. But there's a whole lot of crap happening that makes me think if it's not over YET, it's in it's final pages.
Like I just posted on DMB's thread. I'm not giving up on the NC letter/transparency, but with it only being one week since I exposed to the kids, with her anger over that, I don't expect her to do ANYTHING I suggest for the time being. I just need to keep up the pressure on the Affair, in any way possible. And I picture our conversation about their divorce trial as another bit of pressure which will make WW see it for what it is. I mean, what do you think she's going to be thinking when she's on the couch tonight after I tell her that OMW is possibly going to call myself and by extension, her for that trial? That and the kids pressure and all, it's got to have an affect.
As far as intel with OMW. With OMW and OM living 1000 miles apart, her intel is limited anyway. I mean, he can do whatever he wants and she has no way of knowing about it. In fact, I provide her more intel than she gets from him. But a couple weeks ago they had a situation that makes her think that OM has another GF already, which is another piece that makes me think that he has no intention of connecting with WW. And if that's the case, WW will get pissed at him soon because he's not making the effort, if in fact she's still planning crap.
Make sense?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
