Just checking in..you know what I think..cuz we just talked last night..LOL
Ok so my life just since we talked has taken a HUGE dramatic turn..I'll post my situation later. Right now I have no energy to even put it into words and prob if I even type it out..it will change yet again.
You hang in there girlfriend..ok?
Thinking of you ! And remember..be still.
M 44 H 44 M 22 yrs D 20 D 16 D 13 Bomb 1 8/25/07 Bomb 2 9/30/07 Left 10/01/07 OW..yup
Me? I'm scrambling to save my family. My H is just scrambling.
Trying very hard today not to let him control my day but right now I want to kick, scream, throw stuff, break stuff, you name it..
And you're right they have so much control over the situation..I'm trying to get that back but how do I do that when I have all the responsibility...seeing the tears in my son's eyes and my D15 & D21 not talking to him just makes me realize more what a mess he has made....
Will he ever see the damage? Will he ever wake up? On the verge of tears today....maybe when I get it all out I'll feel better...
Oh, I am getting my hair done....I told H last night I was getting a boob job, a tummy tuck and was dying my hair black..he said, "I hope you're kidding"...well, maybe about the black hair...LOL Would he just die??? HhHhmmmmmmmm............
And I think OW is giving him money for attorney..kind of what I think...could be wrong but she's doing everything else for him...that means he'll stay with her is she does...
I hate them both....at least for what they've created....
Sandy,,
I want to know what happened.....I'm dying over here....and as we all know, it changes by the second......at least mine does..
I prayed for your daughter this morning....told my H about my friend in NY...he said, "what, NY"; I'm sure the wheels were turning...then he ignored me....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I'm sorry about the board election..I'm sure you deserved it...Hang in there...like the rest of us....don't know why we got so lucky with all this BS....
Call anytime.... Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Well, I totally suck at DBing....Maybe I'm trying too hard....
I now call my H the Disney Dad....you know fun fun fun...and then kids are crying when he leaves cause they miss him.
Here's what happened...HHHHHhhhhh..
H called to take son to movies and started talking about D15 and getting a little pissy because she hasn't been answering his calls or returning them and trying to blame it on her volleyball..of course it can't be because he is an A** and he screwed up royally....then I said, "well, maybe she's mad at you and it will take a while", he said, "she can't even say HI"...
I said, "look, you have changed our children's life forever...and then I told him how my son was crying the other night that I didn't want to tell him but he misses his dad, and I started crying...I know big no no but darn it I'm ticked...and then
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Well, I totally suck at DBing....Maybe I'm trying too hard....
I now call my H the Disney Dad....you know fun fun fun...and then kids are crying when he leaves cause they miss him.
Here's what happened...HHHHHhhhhh..
H called to take son to movies and started talking about D15 and getting a little pissy because she hasn't been answering his calls or returning them and trying to blame it on her volleyball..of course it can't be because he is an A** and he screwed up royally....then I said, "well, maybe she's mad at you and it will take a while", he said, "she can't even say HI"...
I said, "look, you have changed our children's life forever...and then I told him how my son was crying the other night that I didn't want to tell him but he misses his dad, and I started crying...I know big no no but darn it I'm ticked...and then HE TRIED TO TURN IT AROUND AND BLAME HIS CRYING ON SOMETHING I SAID.... I said, "ohhhhh nooooo...this is all you".
I told him people where amazed at my dedication to him and my marriage....I got silence...I told him I have loved him unconditionally, and that I feel like someone has removed me from my body and placed me in someone else's life....(I really do feel like that)...Silence....So I said, "I'll have son call later", and hung up....
Sorry folks, bad DBing today but I'm drained, emotionally, physically, and I'm tired of that smile on his face...I want to smack it right off....wow....felt good to vent this....
Took D15 driving, H said he would do it but she doesn't want to go with him....he is missing out.....jerk!!
(((hugs)))
feel better now...thanks
Last edited by Treese; 04/12/0809:02 PM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I know we will survive. It's getting there that is exhausting us. I wake every day, usually about 4 times before I finally get up at 4:30 wondering how I can get through another day---and why do I want to. My only answer is my kids, but how much will I get to see them when this is all put into motion. They are all I have left.
I guess I have a unique situation since my H insists that we try to arrange a schedule that will allow each of us to see them all every day. He doesn't want to miss out on the time he has with them. When I suggest that this can't happen, I'm the B that will use his kids against him..............I was only trying to point out how impossible it would be. I thought it was hard before, not being loved----but feeling his waves of hate are much worse.
Sorry---got off on my problems. I'm here with you. Journalling does help.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Ok, LOL, CAnt; I just used up your whole thread, LOL...funny...we think a lot alike....
My H said that too about me using my kids, but you know what, they figured him out all by themselves...2 of mine are at an age they understand but he doesn't..he acts younger than them...
one piece of advice....DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING..... they will use it against you....if my H wants the D, which he is now telling everyone he's getting....he is about to have the fight of his life...and I will not be at the court on signing day....I'm taking the advice of someone else here on the board...can't remember who it is but ......I won't be there because by signing the final D papers it is saying that I agreed with everything that went on and the outcome...and I don't, nor will I, so he will have to get it on his own and look at those papers with only his signature knowing he is the only one who wanted the D....sorry but....that's the way it is....
Am I strong,,,,heck no.....but I'm trying to be....My H wanted 50/50 custody remember, but he wanted me to leave the house on the week he was here.....I asked him what planet he lived on...I'm not leaving my home...he chose it, he lives with it...
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Not crying yet today----------hope you're doing well. I'm off to get my hair cut. D14 is home sick, D9 is at school but on meds for ear/sinus infection................
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Well D15 continues to not speak to her dad...she is actually getting angrier....son had a baseball game last night and he is a coach, so H didn't speak to me during the game and then after the game I just went to the car, waited for son, and left to go home...I didn't speak to him either....
After I got home I made son something to eat and H came over to bring dog food......stayed about 15 minutes....he has been over for the past 3 days just to visit with kids...or else OW is busy with her kids.....who knows...he has too many lives for me to keep up with..
Anyway, this AM D15 asked why H was there last night...that she doesn't want to see him or talk to him...would rather he just pick up son in his car not come in and drop him off...I told her her dad is starting to feel the effects of his girls not wanting to talk to him....at least that is why I think he is coming over...he tells her goodbye but she is just over him right now..I told him, it is going to take a while because he really hurt us..she feels as though he stole 8 years of her life....
My job today is to find her a counselor.....ASAP....
So, do you think I'm right about him starting to miss his kids? I hope he is starting to really think about what he has done...it's like he has totally detached from reality....
Maybe its wishful thinking, IDK...
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
It think he does miss the kids, it's really hard to imagine he wouldn't. But, whether that means he'll think about what he's done, or whether he'll try to "blame" something, or someone, else..... who knows! Trying to understand what is happening inside his head is probably not the best use of your time! Watch, and listen, and keep living your life!
