Just got through reading your stitch... So sorry you are here. Also sorry about the loss of her child. That is awful.
My advice to you is this, you have to stop pursuing her. I know you said she needs to be pursued, but that clearly isn't working at the moment.
No begging or pleading with her. Do things that make you feel good and get your mind off of things.
Everyone makes mistakes and NO R is perfect by a long shot, its what we make of it. What worries me is that you all aren't even married, she's not even D from her H and she seeing OM? She clearly has some issues. I know this hurts like a knife through your heart, but she has to be the one to show some interest in working through your R, and you can't force it.
She doesn't know what she wants... did she tell you why she is with OM? and it Ticks me off so bad that this guy is M too and with small children.. that boils my blood, no morals or anything!!
I think you should distance yourself from her. She seems to have no problem being with someone that is M with children, and that is bad too.
The only other thing I can say is when someone loses a child sometimes they change. My inlaws loss a child and they were never the same, did some really out of the ordinary things and endedd up divorcing.. has she ever gotten C for her loss??
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
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