Only you can answer how long you are willing to wait. I do see baby step from your W in your posts . Look at all the really small positives. They are there.
I have been going thru this for a long time. I first noticed that something was wrong with H in fall of 05. Even told my daughter that something was wrong. I gave H space didn't say anything till Oct 06. I was kind of DBing with out even knowing about it. My troble now is that after all of this time H still doesn't feel that emotional connection. I also think though that he might be looking for those in love feelings that he felt for EA/OW. That may take a long time as we have been married for 31 years. I do know that he doesn't want the M to end because he just keeps reeling me in when I pull back from the M. I still think he's cak-eeating to a point.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
