LWB, Please get the book that I'm reading now "What to do when your spouse says, I don't love you anymore" by David Clarke. I got a used copy from Amazon.com. It is a real eye opener! While I wouldn't advocate all of his tough love approaches, it does make you feel better about yourself and that you are not the blame for his adulterous ways. It is an extension of LRT and not being a doormat.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I just read up the reviews yoyo, and I can't seem to get the strength to order it. I swear, I can't take another R/fixing the marriage book. I am so not there. If you promise me its more about helping ME through this then it is tactics to save the M, I will order it.
Oops, I actually think that's funny though. He gets caught up in his lies, and look what happens.. Meant to be.
Glad you had a super time with the girls.. sounds like a bunch of fun!!
Cannot believe the happy hour deal.. you are really on the other end of the spectrum.. and good for you, he is still acting like a 16 year old, and you are the adult.
Your doing great.. i think of you a lot and hope your doing ok.
(((hugs)))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Are you still shaking from the earthquake? I've been told by a few people in St. Louis that it woke them up this morning. Another told me that you're getting aftershocks. Freaky!
How are you today? You posted on everyone else's thread, but not your own.
So, your H's family didn't know about the extent of your sitch? I don't know if my FIL knows either. I know he suspects, but isn't aware fully. H is too afraid of what he'll say.
Anything else going on? Just checking on you!!
Hugs to you and the girls!
-Sue
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Hey everyone! My first earthquake! Where's my t-shirt!!??? It was so weird, by the time I figured out what the heck was going on, it was over. lol D3 was mad her bed was shaking, D6 slept through it. We have had a few aftershocks, but nothing scary. Very ODD!!!!
Yes, H's family didn't know. H lied to me, told them he told them, so I talked freely with his sister one day last week, and shocked the pants right off her. Oops. Oh well. So I set the record straight with everyone, but kept the A out of it (told them he wants to lead the single life, and doesn't want to be married to me anymore). His mom told his Grandma, and H will not like this one bit. We had agreed not to tell her (she is 97, c'mon!), but I can't control what others do. I continue to get huge support from his side (but am not leaning too much), they are so sad and disappointed in H.
Glad to hear that you are ok. My first earthquake was the "72 quake in LA. I was sleeping and thought a witch I was dreaming about was shaking my bed because she was mad at me! The in-law thing is tough. I talked to MIL since she had gone through it herself but I guess she didn't want to talk anymore because she laid into me around Easter. No apology yet from her(yes, I apologized later the same day) so we haven't spoken and we were really close. Maybe she doesn't miss me yet??!! I know that N. Cal group is talking about getting together, maybe the midwesterners could too. Take care. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm in post yoga retreat bliss, still full of healthy food, being centered and having lots of positive energy.
And you know what? The better I feel about myself, the less the negative in my life effects me. I feel it, but don't need to embrace it. I can let it go. I don't have to keep beating that dead horse, just to confirm that .. yes.. it's dead.. whack whack whack... golly, it's still dead.
You are THE mom and a great one at that. And what an incredible realization to hear from your happy hour hubby while you were at church. And what a fantastic day with the kids. That must have been such cleansing moments!
