An update. W called me this morning on my mobile to say that she is not going to come home today afterall as she is very tired from a late night (i.e. her flight with from Spain with OM got in at about midnight). I asked about her weekend and she simply said it was "good". I hate this and I am angry but I am going to be calm for now. She did say that she wants us to go on a short trip to the Baltics for 4 nights as she wants to "chill out". She has been living off her credit card and "chilling out" with OM for the last 7 weeks - I am angry with her at the moment so I am not in the mood for writing nice things about her.
W sent me an email a short while ago that she is going to come home on Wednesday instead as she has an assignment to work on. She said also "I hope that's okay..". Frankly, I do not believe her - I am sure it's simply an excuse for something else. She has moved the goalposts so many times now that I do not believe anything. I think she will come home but I don't know when. So far during this DB odyssey she has done everything she said she would do but always later than when she originally said. She really is in the habit of moving those goalposts around the field continually. PATIENCE I know...
She has booked my flight to go the Baltics, but hasn't booked one for herself yet and neither has she booked a flight to come back to Germany.
On the advise of Just_Me I asked her when she called if she too was 100% committed to our marriage thereby parrotting what she asked me last week. She replied "I am, yes, but there will be a transition period..." to which I agreed. Quite what she means by "transition period" I don't know but I didn't push it. It's not the fact that there will be a transition period that concerns me - I know that all too well - but I want to know what one is as W defines it. If she wants to keep in contact with OM then I am not interested in having her back - not until that is taken care of.
Just venting here guys, want to get this vitriol out of my system before I say something I regret to someone. I know it looks like I am getting a good shot at rescuing this M, and that these things are good problems to have, but I don't like her messing me around like this and wilfully hiding stuff. She said she would be home this weekend and instead she flies OM to Spain. For those of you new to my sitch I am able to see which flights she has booked and with whom, without her knowing. The threshold of my patience is drawing ever closer I think...
best,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
