[princess_nic]

Hi,

Thanks for your post on my thread! Gosh, you're so flattering - too bad you're not a single guy in my city, lolol!

It was kind of a "test" for me because I knew OW wouldn't be shooting since she had other plans, but if he still went without her being there it would show me that he enjoys the shooting and not just her company. Anyway, he stayed home. My test failed and it hurts.

((((Girl))) I know how that feels. One thing that I try to keep in mind is that we can't ever know what is really going on in someone else's mind. Maybe he doesn't really like it, but she pressures him to go, and he doesn't want to let her down. It doesn't mean he is in love with her. Also, it is so tempting to give your H little "tests" of your own devising, but if he doesn't know he's being tested, your results may be skewed. Same if he knows, but at least then, he has a chance! There are just too many variables in this case for you to know why he didn't go.

I really don't know what I want right now. I'm dedicated to doing what I can to save my marriage because that's what I promised to do, but it's not very fun. We've been suffering in silence since December and my life is slipping away... my love for H is dwindling with each passing day.

No, it's not fun. And I'm not surprised you're not feeling the love. It doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you that you're not filled with good feelings towards your H, and having a great time being the only one trying to save your M!

I'm a believer in the concept that love is a verb. Love arises out of action - if you don't nurture your love, it will dwindle. With the way things are in your M, it is no wonder you don't feel it - but that doesn't mean it can't come back. Right now, you probably have a need to protect yourself, and that is okay. If you do loving actions for H, your feelings will probably start to come back. Of course, if they aren't reciprocated, your love can only develop so far. But what I'm saying is (in case all my blah blah isn't clear!), it's okay to not "feel" it right now; it doesn't mean it's gone forever.

I hope you had fun with your dog! And I am glad that you think you're great! That's what I'm working on for me.

Nicola