I have taken the advice of my C and begun to write letters to my W. At first I didn't think this was a good idea because she may not read them. When we had problems in the past I wrote her and more than once I found them torn up and in the garbage, but so far she is reading them.
I find this easier than trying to talk with her because I can say what I want to say in a clear and concise manner and not have to respond to what she says against the point I am trying to make.
I found out the guy she is involved with has been physically abusive in the past. This is something I will not tolerate. He has not been abusive towards my wife, I hope. Now she thinks I am making up stories in an effort to get her to stop seeing him. No matter what I do I cant win.
I made the mistake of contacting the OW last week to find out if she is getting back with her fiancee, AKA the OM who my wife is having her A with. I was honest with my W about the meeting and what was said and the questions I asked, however now it has been turned around that I had to be pushed away by the OW after making sexual advances.
I am also accused of making comments that my W was at home in an Ambien incuced coma and would not know that I had left the house so I was free to do what ever I want. Then the real kick in the groin came when the OW told the OM who relayed it to my W that I was going to go home ( after being rejected) and maturbate to porn that my W purchased. I am not all high and mighty but, I don't watch porn, it makes me uncomfortable and I don't really see the point. Some people watch it, I don't.
Needless to say the fact that my wife would even begin to believe the load of BS that is being fed to her makes me sick.
I am going to continue to hang in because I know there is a light at the end of this tunnel, I just have to know how to change the bulb and work the damn switch.
