Wow ! I get a drink! Make it a cosmo with some of that fancy vodka. Any one will do.
Have you talked to him about going to a Retrouvaille weekend? I was at the local one on Friday night, greeting the couples as they came in. And I was so excited for all of them. They didn't know what was in store for them, but I couldn't stop smiling and being happy for them. Because they had made it to a place where they could really do the work to heal their marriages. And, you should see the beautiful new resort facility they have to do it in in Tampa! I was so jealous. I wanted to stay all weekend. My recommendation -- book a Retrouvaille weekend in Tampa at the Bethany Center, or just do it locally where you are. You are almost all the way to where you want to go. You just need some experienced couples to show you the rest of the way.