I know it is necessary to work out the logistics, to educate yourself on the D process, etc. For now, you are may need to focus on this and on your acceptance of D as either inevitable or almost so. However, I have found myself the most at peace when I don't ASSume I know how things will end up. Even now, when I want to end it, I still am happier when I just live my life and don't try to control things, one way or the other.
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