Peace, He's using the "You are controlling" accusation to push your buttons. Don't let those buttons work anymore, to break the cycle. If you stick with it long enough, he'll realize that his tactic isn't working and will stop. There's a good book called "The Solo Partner" by Phil De Luca about how to constructively handle conflict situations. I am proud of you for validating and thanking him. Don't be discouraged by the lack of response now. It may take a while. He's determined to be crabby but I amsure he appreciates it deep down. He just probably doesn't want to admit you're being nice to him. -PH
