RTL You and W are still legally married, it is totally inappropriate for W to have OM there. It is wrong that D even knows him. I think you are within your rights and being reasonable to say OM should not be there. Your D is taking this all in, what does your W think she is teaching D about long term relationships? I wonder what the parent evaluator would think of W for even involving D in that relationship. After the D is final ok, D will see that your her Mom's life will go on, but right now she is making a mockery of marriage. When D is a teenager , her self esteem and self respect will be compromised if your W continues on this path. W should be concerned with teaching D that if a marriage ends, you walk away with dignity and honor your promises, then go on with your life. I can't imagine anyone thinking it is ok for a 4year old to say she wants both Mom's boyfriend and her father at a party. Who is the adult here? To your D the Om is just someone who probably buys her things and is friends with her MOm. Puleeeze!!!!!
