Patience is key

[addie]

Jen so good to hear from you again. Stella, Kalni thanks for your input.
H came over yesterday and was very frustrated that he can't find a temporary place to live (I do know it's very difficult to find rental accommodations in this city as the vacancy rate is just about 0%). I told him it would be easier for him to stay in the place he's in now until he finds out for certain about a job. He said the 2 young guys that are living there are driving him crazy. The one guy that was there when H moved in was fine but these new roommates use his stuff, are loud, etc. I said I'm sorry about that but you made certain choices (I should have left the last comment out). He said he knows it's his own fault he's in this sitch. He also feels that we can talk about our R constructively now, that we weren't able to do that in January. (Duh!!! I wonder if that's because he was heavily into an EA then and was in a fog???)
We did our cooking together - made a few dishes. He thanked me for all the work and I also thanked him in return. We all had dinner together and went for a walk to the lake. As the day went on he became more distant. On our way back from the walk he said S and I should go on ahead that he'd be another few minutes.
He ended up staying here until 11:30 pm although I went to bed a couple of hours before that as I was feeling tired.
I received an email from him just after he arrived at his place late last night thanking me for the dishes we made. Then this morning he calls, thanks me again and asks us what we're doing today. He said he wouldn't be able to go to church with us as he's checking out a place to live. I also told him S and I would be going to the driving range in the afternoon and he said he might meet us there. A couple of hours later he leaves a message on my cell saying he wouldn't be going to the driving range because he's looking at another place. Shortly after that he calls back again saying he'd meet us there and he did.
I do believe he's slowly making his way back to the M. However, I can't allow him to move back in until he at least tells me that he'd like us to look at addressing some of the issues and until I know OW is out of the picture.