Please help me! Wife wants out! (5)

[steve477]

Thanks for the replys

Sandi, you are a saint!

Had a good weekend. Didnt feel compelled to come on and type a report for Saturday, which I take as a good sign.

I am definately more `aware` of what I am doing. I am thinking before I speak. Things like when W ask me what I want to eat or what I want to do.. I make sure that even if I dont know, I come up with an answer.
I have made it clear especailly this weekend, that I am her MAN. I have taken the lead everywhere I can, but always trying to take her needs on board. I actually said a couple of times over the weekend `you are mine/ you are my girl` or something like that, and recieved an answer of `yeah`. Reassuring.
Went out with my grandparents on Saturday night, and W was looking to me to take the lead in recommend things of the menu for my Grandparents. SHe definately wants me in this alpha male position. Doesnt take too much effort for me to be there either. Held hands a bit more while we walked around at the weekend.
Was nice with grandparents, we talked abit about our lives, and Gparents said they thought it would be best for us to get away from the family abit, and I shoudlnt feel bad about wanting to do that. I think they wanted to advise us a bit more, but we will have time for that when we visit them. They have been married for 53 years now, so I am sure they might have a couple of pointers!lol
I slept the whole night in our bed on Saturday night. I took Sandis advice and just got in and she didnt complain about it. We both slept well. We slept a bit this afternoon too, were holding hands when we slept. we used to hold hands almost every night when we slept before (I know..sickeningly sweet!lol), so that was nice. I have let her sleep alone again tonight and during the week because I want her to be able to relax. If she can get used to me slowly again at the weekend, I am sure we can start throwing a few weekdays in soon.

Bit more flirting and bit more touchy this weekend. W would say things like `stop` or `naughty boy` but always with a smile on her face so I tried to read her between the lines and I think I git it right. Might have gone a little too far once, but not a lot and I recovered immediately.
Dont mind saying I was REALLY horny today! Hopefully not long to go!!!

W called her Mum back in Japan this weekend, and talked about the possiblity of us going back. The fact that she even mentioned this to her Mum I take as a very good dign that we can move away from here.
With regards to my own parents, my mother was a bit `off` on Saturday with me, but I dont really care now. She is a bit sick at the moment, and she is also going through menopause (guess I could have metioned that before).

With regard to telling my W about the books, I dont give to much away, and I know she wont read them, as I said English is not her first language, and they would be pretty heavy going for her. So should be ok there.

Now Steve, sweetie, when I told you not to set yourself up for disappointment, I did not mean for you to allow yourself to have a good time! So, you go on your trip and make the most of it, okay? Just don't think it will do some miracle (that is setting yourself up for hurt), but enjoy it as it comes. Just relax and try to stay upbeat. Let it come naturally.

I am trying. Like I said before, I think it would be much nicer when I look back at this time to have let it happened naturally then to have pestered W for a kiss! We are flirting about the kiss abit. I am really trying to stop that though... Dont think this trip will work miracles, if only for the fact that my Garandparents will be sleeping in the next room!lol.

W is definately getting more open and `feminine` again with me. The `wall` is starting to come down little by little I feel. And I think it is due in no small part to the efforts I have made to put myself back in the position of HER MAN.

Cheers

Steve

PS I have bought myself a nice little notebook for jotting down things and ideas about W. I always have nice ideas for gifts that I forget, or she will mention a favourite flower this season. So I want to be able to remember everything that will help me to be a great husband... hence my notebook! When I thought about it, there are alot of things that I knew about her..favourite things etc. that I just cannot really recall (I know I am bad). But not from now!