The first time H put the house on market I told my H that if I leave this home, the next one I have will be for me and the kids and his days of popping in and out will end. He then had the nerve to say that he will help me find a new home. I turned him down flat. This was last year. It still stands.
I still have not signed the papers yet, but if this house sells, H will have no control over my next home (he pays the mortgage right now on this home) .....so he will not have the access as he has now.
He will also have his own place as he is planning on using the money from the house to start over and move on (so he said). Therefore, he may not want to come by like he has been because he will finally be free. What he wants. He can finish the D and be with MOW.....ugh!
When I think about this...it really makes it easier to be dim because it brings anger. I don't want to be angry though. It makes me sad to be distant from him. I just don't know.
Anyway, as for talking to him, tried that a while back. There is no talking to him. I truly think he is gone for good. He just doesn't want anyone to be mad at him for what he is doing.
I do think he uses d13 as an excuse to come over but I just don't know why, if he truly missed his life with us, why doesn't he do something about this. Why is he still with MOW and not working to fix our family. I wonder if it is too hard to come home. Too much work.
Anyway, Snodderly, if he ends this marriage that is it for he and I. I will not be there for him like I am. I will not be picking up his medicine, taking him to get his car, nothing. I will be done.
It will be 2 years next week since H walked out the door in the middle of the night and he shows no sign of turning around. I hope my insurance company is paying his counselor well. The guy deserves it. My h is all messed up!
Breton, you are right. Phone calls have to stop. I am so glad that I left my phone in the kitchen last night.
