all I can suggest is that you quit trying to control what your H is doing or wants to do. Be the best mom you can be and let go of the rope in regard to your H. Make the changes in you that would help to bring your H back, and quit trying to control him. You really need to THINK before you ACT or REACT. Everytime you are about to say something to your H, ask yourself this question: Is what I'm about to say or do going to help me get closer to or achieve my goal{s)?
If you can do this, it may help you to discipline yourself better in times like this sitch you just posted about.
