thank you so much for the reply. I just slipped up again badly. h told me he was going to be working late tomorrow (and it know it's actually true because I overheard him on the phone with his boss). but i backslid and just said, "you can't be out every night like this (I was referring to the two nights he was out with ow).",. it opened whole can of worms. I'm [censored] up again after such a good day yesterday. what the f is wrong with me??? AGAIN, I had to hear things, like, "I don't love you, why do you want me here??" the whole thing.